Conscious Acts of Love
A friend kindly shared this with me about her better half:
Every morning, when I come downstairs after getting ready for work, Gary has fed our bird, got our dog’s food ready, put bread in the toaster for me, or whatever I’m having at the time, and is eating his own breakfast.
On occasion, he will say I love you, and it’s always wonderful to hear it, but all these things he does, he does to say I love you!
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Words of love are sometimes expressed far too casually. Acts of love is my preferred ‘default’ mode.
People somehow feel insecure when you don’t affirm your love through words and take for granted other deeper, meaningful ways you demonstrate it to them.
To people who know me but have never heard me tell them I love them, let me count the many other ways you can be reassured:
1. See it in my kindness and random displays of thoughtfulness.
2. Hear it in my giggles and laughter in my constant attempt and desire to amuse you or those times when I’m amused by you.
3. Smell it in my willingness to help, even in small or insignificant ways.
4. Taste it in my quiet and sometimes inaudible words of appreciation for every little or big thing you do.
5. Be touched by my support and encouragement (more often than not) for what your heart desires to do.
6. Accept it in my periods of generosity and little hint of selfishness.
7. ‘Get it’ in my deep reservoir of patience and appreciate not many are as patient.
8. Listen to the gentle way I speak, which others mistake for meekness.
9. Observe it in my being polite regardless of your status in life, and rare* outbursts of anger or rudeness.
10. Know it each time I give in and indulge you, even if it seems I do it more often than you.
11. Notice it in my tolerance of many things, even in those times I shouldn’t tolerate them.
12. Understand it in the absence of nagging, especially in those times you’d more appreciate silence.
13. Sense it in my being considerate and understanding, even if sometimes you don’t know why I do what I do.
14. Detect it in my instinct to tell the truth and be as honest as I possibly can.
15. Appreciate it in my sense of fair play and devoid of any thoughts to deceive or use you.
16. Feel the love in how I treat your loved ones and friends.
I could go on and on…
My point is love can be expressed in more ways than one. Words of love don’t guarantee true love. I ‘ooze’ love through these every day and sometimes deliberate actions. Acts of love, if done consistently and consciously, are more real and convincing.
I wish more people were like Gary in the quote above. No matter how often you say it, marry loving words with consistent loving actions.
These are my perspectives on love. What are yours?
* I’m lucky that only few people rub me the wrong way.